Moving Your Life Forward with Effective Boundaries
Bradley Davidson, MS, SPHR
Personal and Professional Coach
Do any of the following statements ring true for you?
I feel overworked. There is not enough time in the day.
I’ll never reach my goal of ____. There are just too many other things (or people) competing for my attention.
My energy is “zapped” after spending time with John.
Ian regularly makes comments that hurt my feelings and affect my mood for the rest of the day (or week, or month). I don’t know what to do.
Do you ever feel like another person or situation is holding you back from living your best life? Whether you are pursuing personal goals such as finding peace and happiness in your life or professional goals such as starting a new career, a new business, or becoming a better leader, you want to be successful. We all want to move our lives toward our vision and achievement of our goals. Sometimes, however, this forward movement gets stalled (or at least slowed down) by hurdles that we encounter.
Some of these hurdles are actually gaps, such as a skill, financial, or commitment gap, for which we need to identify a bridge (e.g, training, a financial plan, etc.). But often, these hurdles are actually things that distract us (sometimes even paralyze us) from moving our lives forward. These distracters might be projects with unreasonable timeframes or the unhealthy behavior of people in our lives. The impact they can have on our lives can range from being a minor inconvenience to being hurtful to paralyzing us as we try to move our personal and professional lives forward.
If you have made statements like the ones above (either “out loud” or internally), your life might be affected by a distracter. So, what do you do? One of the most effective ways to neutralize these distracters in your life is to create healthy and effective boundaries.
Want to know more? Click here to download my free “Drawing Effective Personal Boundaries” tool. It’s absolutely free for all my subscribers to use and to share with their friends. Start moving your life forward by creating effective boundaries today.
Bradley Davidson and Rejoice Magazine
A few months ago, I had the privilege of meeting Bobby Brown, the husband of Charmayne Brown. For those of us who do not live on the East Coast, we’re not likely familiar with Charmayne. Let me tell you the story.
Charmayne Brown was an award-winning news journalist for News Channel 7, the CBS affiliate in Spartanburg-Greenville-Anderson, South Carolina. In March, 2008, while covering the story of a local murder, the family of the accused verbally and physically attacked Charmayne on camera, shouting racial slurs at her and physical assaulting her. You can click here to read the story at the CBS news website.
Instead of living in bitterness and anger over the assault, Charmayne and Bobby decided it was time to create the antithesis of this frightening and sad attack. Motivated by this traumatic event in their lives, Charmayne and Bobby have founded “Rejoice Magazine”, a multicultural Christian magazine. Bobby told me that he and Charmayne felt they needed to find a way to promote and grow the Christian faith in a multicultural way in their community. The magazine is available in print on the East Coast and some of its content is available on their website, www.rejoicemag.com.
A few months ago, Bobby called and asked me if I would submit an article for an upcoming issue of Rejoice Magazine. I agreed. In the meantime, we continued our dialogue about their ministry. Ultimately, Bobby and Charmayne asked me to be the official Life Coach of Rejoice Magazine. I am thrilled to be part of their ministry of reconciliation and growth. Please visit Rejoice! Magazine’s website to see the latest issue. If you scroll about 2/3 of the way down the home page, you will see my link. Please contribute to this month's Rejoice blog about life purpose.
I think Bobby and Charmayne are showing us that often, our life purpose can be born out of our very anguish. How might we dig deeper into our pain and find the ultimate purpose for our lives?
Will You Share?
I, along with our other readers, would love to hear about how you have set healthy boundaries in your life. Log onto www.liveandworkonpurpose.blogspot.com to share your stories and discoveries with your fellow purpose-seekers. Or, go to my website and email me. I want to hear from you.
Engaging the help of a life coach is a great way to take your life to the next level.
A good coach doesn't provide the answers but instead helps you with the process, helps you find the answers, stay focused, build a strategy, and will hold you accountable for making progress in your journey.
As a professional coach, I would enjoy the opportunity to discuss your journey with you. I offer a free 30-minute coaching session so that you can experience the power of coaching and decide, for yourself, if coaching is for you. If you'd like to give it a try, visit my website at www.liveandworkonpurpose.com to schedule your free session.
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